What It Is

In this new era womenas standards for judging their partners has changed significantly. Their independence and equality has never been greater and they are more dedicated than ever to having their own professional and personal lives. Like all things this day and age her assessment of potential mates has become all too fast; weighing his pros and cons with little hesitation or allowance for prolonged courtship.

She has accomplished everything she set out to do thus far, finished college, got a great job. She is happy, but decides it is time to consider a more serious relationship than she experienced while in school. She will not treat her opportunities in love any more lightly than she has her professional opportunities, she will make a conscious deliberate decision.

What would such a woman be looking for in a man? That would ultimately depend on the womanas values, her personality and more than likely her past experiences with relationships, including not only romantic ones but those with her family. She may be looking for a man who is comparable to her. A man who has worked as diligently as she in choosing his career and lifestyle. She may be looking for someone who follows the same standards as she experienced with her own mother and father. That which is familiar and she finds comfortable. Or she may be looking for someone who is her opposite, one who challenges her into seeing new and exciting ways to look at the world around her.

Weighing all these options, she will have choices as varied as there are personality types. If she finds a man that compliments her own outlook, he will be just as hard-working and dedicated as she is; someone who has attained his personal goals through perseverance. She will be attracted to confident man with a strong sense of self and direction.

A woman who is looking for a relationship similar to what she saw between her parents would be looking for those specific qualities. Maybe she found in her home, growing up, a man and woman who committed to one another wholeheartedly and put first the pledge of loyalty and faith. Or she may have experienced a relationship that was comfortable in ways such as living their lives separately, having completely different interests and only shared their days by telling each other how their day went. Unfortunately she may have found her home to be one of loneliness, void of affection and devotion. This woman could be quite comfortable living this way. She would be looking for a man who lacks the ability to be close and only shares her life by going through the motions of everyday life.

Some women want and search for excitement and stimulation. She would desire provocation of thought and action. This type of woman may like a man who is eclectic, flits from one ideal to another, and creates a sense of anonymity. This man would be creative, fearless and rebellious.

We may never know what a woman truly wants, because she may not sincerely have placed in mind a specific character. Women are as different as men. She can be interested in someone who comprises all of these qualities. A man who is hard working, with a diligent attitude but also exhibits tendencies to stray from the norm and is adventurous.

Last of all we must acknowledge that women are searching for what they find most attractive; men that interest them intellectually as well as physically. Women can be enigmatic and often defy any attempt to categorize them. But, by accepting their mystery you will be closer to knowing what they really want.